Variation 1: Skipping
Skipping is where you take a break in between each motion or skip every other motion.
Many women swear by this. As Maria says, “by holding back and skipping every other touch, you can create a sweet frustration—like only half-scratching an itch.” Creating a desire that’s never 100% satisfied leads to a slower buildup and longer, more intense orgasm.
The best way to try it is to take a touch that already works for you and skip part of it, over and over. For instance, if what you love is swipes that go left-right-left-right, try left-pause-left-pause and skip right-swipe each time. It can be a little frustrating at first and it takes longer, but it can dial up the intensity of your orgasm later.
Variation 2: Raindrops
Irregular rhythms have different amounts of time between each motion. Women who swear by this randomness say it stays exciting because their clit doesn’t know what exactly is coming next. It keeps up the suspense and surprise! While many women prefer consistent motion, others really like to avoid routine even in the timing of a single repeating motion.
Variation 3: Back-to-Back
Back-to-back is when you repeat your motion right after finishing the last one with no pauses in between. With this rhythm, there’s no time for the pleasure to die down between motions. As one woman who prefers back-to-back rhythm put it,
“For me, getting an orgasm is like blowing up a balloon till it pops—if you stop even for a half-second, then the air starts coming out. So the movement can’t have any little breaks in it... right when one ends, the next one is already starting, so it feels inside like it’s one long motion.”
Variation 4: Constant Pulsating
Constant pulsating is so fast that it’s almost a blur. You move so quickly that it becomes a flutter. After all, there’s a reason vibrators are so popular. Olivia, below, finishes with a pulsating that never leaves the skin—it stays in contact and the pressure is what flutters and pulsates.
One woman who prefers this rhythm summed it up with this,
“I used to only orgasm with a vibrator but found that if the finger or tongue moves just really slightly—like almost no distance at all but so fast that it’s like a vibrator—I can get that same feeling.”
With penetration, pulsating is an extremely popular stroke because it allows a tiny amount of movement to constantly stimulate the clit.
“The springs of the bed let us be almost super-human fast,” reports another woman, “but it only feels good if he stays inside and we’re shaking together, not in-out really fast like in porn.”
Another woman explained it like this,
“It doesn’t feel good when it goes in and out really fast—guys think I like that—but what works best for me is when he’s all the way inside and the area above his dick is against my clit, and he uses his feet on the footboard at the bottom of the bed to quiver and tremble really fast so he becomes like my vibrator.”
